Nugget for the Day

When you see crazy coming,..Cross the STREET! Iyanla

Peace
Akos

Oh Baby You, Got What I Need...

Just Friends.

Let's just be friends. Have  you ever put someone in the friendzone?
Or better yet, have you been forcibly placed into that box?
The box that places limits on your interactions with your significant other?
I have been given privvy to very important information.
The fact of the matter is, being in the FRIEND ZONE is one of the best things for your relationship.
What's the rush anyway?
Are you so desparate for someone with whom you can hold hands, kiss, and hug?
Those should be the menial things in your relationship.
A truly strong relationship isn't based on fleeting feelings of desire and lust.
That's called infatuation.
If you can't see past the superficial nothings, then why do you want to be with this person in the first place.

Or maybe I should be asking why they would want to be with you?

Friendship gives you the freedom to be yourself.
There are no inhibitions between friends.
You don't have to hide who you really are in order for the someone to like you better.
It's that getting to know you period with no restrictions.
And if after much time has passed, you find that this person is offering something that your life could benefit from, go for it.
You can have the pleasure of telling the important people in your life that  you were friends before you became lovers.

AJ

Ready for Love

This song was on my heart today.
My hope is that one day these words will be true, for me.
Still, there's nothing wrong with a little fantasy every once in a while.

"Never settle for anyone for the sake of avoiding lonliness. If you haven't learned to appreciate the company of yourself, you will always be alone."

A quote I snagged from Nina Ellis Hervey. Ain't it the truth.



When we love eachother, let it be the right place and time.
Let us not be so overtaken with passion that we jump in without our life jackets.
We should be grounded in Him, and truly KNOW ourselves.

I am readying myself for LOVE

AJ

Relationship 101: How do you know when it's love?

Love is a word that's so over used that it almost seems cliche'. Maybe that statement would be valid if I didn't believe that God is, was, and will always be synonymous with it.
1 John 4:8 clearly states that God is love, and if you don't love then you can't possibly claim to know him. But how is this unconditional love applied to romantic relationships? Isn't it our right to choose with whom we "fall in love".
Is "falling in love" even a real concept?

These are questions that I'm forced to grapple with, while in my current life state.

So when do you know when you love him or her?
Do you get butterflies every time they walk into the room?
Does their touch make your body quiver?Or is it the fact that you keep coming back to each other despite the quarrels, and disagreements? In spite of the frequent tension maybe you've realized that you would rather fight with them, than have quiet with out them.
Is it those moments where time seems to stand still when you hold each other?
And at some point during all of this turmoil you believe that one day you might want to start a family with him or her.
Will you fight for them? Or maybe even give your life so that they wouldn't have to feel an ounce of pain or suffering?

Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.John 15:13

Fall Hard
Dive Deep
Submerse yourself in their love

AJ

Find your Love

I Never Can Say GoodBye..

Never Can Say Goodbye - Jackson 5
Good day readers you are probably wondering why I have this classic hit up here. I never can say goodbye by the Jackson 5 its because my best friend is getting married! I know I know I should be happy for her and trust me I am. I want her to experience all the joys of marriage and the fulfillment that comes with it. But it just feels kinda weird, and yes I admit that it hurts, to know that once she says I do that's a wrap. OK, here's the history. I have known this girl since we have been in kindergarten! NOw how many people can say that?! But we have really been friends since the seventh grade and I was old enough to want to talk on the phone. So we have a long history. And now all of a sudden my best friend in the whole wide world, except for Jesus of course is about to take the plunge; in one weeks time she will no longer have the same last name. It seems that I am enduring some separation anxiety. It seems as though they are always together. When I call on weekends he is always there, like he is the other man lol jk. But seriously though I have definitely had to realize that I cannot depend on human beings for my comfort. You know how when something really terrible happens to you like your boyfriend dumps you , or for my fellow college students if you fail a test, your best friend is the one you can't wait to call when you get good and bad news. But now she won't always be available. Maybe I'm looking at this the wrong way. One thing that I have learned is that Jesus should be the first person we run to when getting both good and bad news. I have learned to kneel and pray to tell him everything, and if there's anyone that needs to complete us its him. So the lesson learned is to put God first in everything and to let him fill the voids that are in our lives because only He can. Human beings may come and go but God is ever present!
Be Blessed!
AJ

Im Finally NOT Sad

While listening to slow R&B songs and catching up on the latest episode of "A Different World". Something came to me; I realized that, not only am I sick and tired of thinking about my EX, but I can not even entertain the idea of fanticizing about him during a segment of Tamia's "Officially Missing YOu". Not even "Boy I need you bad as a heart beat, Bad as the food I eat baby I need you bad". And I don't want him bad!!! LOL. I hope he's happy with who he's with, and who he is. That didnt even make me weak. Im usually not one to dwell on a song that makes my heart weak for someone I cant obtain.

What my dreams are made of ...

My first thoughts waking up..thank you Jesus for waking me up..second thought..writing????
Hmm interesting hehe..
So this is what I dreamt last night..I was mainly about my father. You see there are some unresolved issues in our relationship and the tension has been escalating for quite a while now. Don't get me wrong now, I love my daddy; he's been a great provider. I have never wanted fore any reasonable thing that he has denied me. By reasonable I mean clothing, a home, and food, not to mention the braces that have straightened my teeth!!
But the truth is our relationship goes little beyond the financial aspect of life. I cant ever remember him telling me that I was beautiful, and I can count the times that I have felt his warm embrace (which have been few and far in between). Alcohol and nicotine have been his wife and children. He recently had heart surgery so his "family" has been forcibly taken from him (if he wants to live).
Substance abuse can really make a person angry. Throughout his adult life this sixty year old man has spent the majority of his time cooped up in his bedroom, letting the television suck his mind away. He never took me to the park, or played catch with me, or encouraged me to play sports. These are all the things I desired growing up.
Now I'm 19 and although I did struggle as much as others might have, there is still something missing within me..a place that I am trying to fill with Christ. I think I might be angry at my dad for all of the things that our relationship lacked. I mentioned before that he can be a rather unhappy man, and sometimes he goes off on rants of anger, he yells and often uses profane words. I'm not sure if he even realizes how much what he says affects me. He may quickly forget his hurtful words but they live on in my mind forever. I digress..back to the dream!!
In the dream I believe I was telling him everything that I ever wanted to say to him. Things that might hurt and things that should help. Have you ever bottled up your emotions for the sake of saving another person pain and heartache?? Only to leave yourself in need of some tenderlovingcare. I told him off and it felt good:)! I cried(in the dream).